things i have read, in no particular order. may also contain video essays (emphasis on essays!) and will notate as such.

Let's Talk About Genital Preferences, by Savior Bright

Is Your Fear of Gender Transition Really the Fear of Aging?, by Devon Price

The Quietly Coercive Nature of "Vanilla" Sex, by Devon Price
There are more essays by Devon that i have read and i will add them later to break up this list. for example:
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On “Male Socialization” and the “Trans Masc Versus Trans Fem” Discourse™, by Julia Serano

please also read Whipping Girl, by Julia Serano

Trans Masc Misogyny and the Red Six of Spades, by Jude Doyle